As I prepare to raise a daughter in a harsh world, quite frankly, it scares me. This world is a hard place for us all, but especially for young women. Basically, our culture is so mixed up. Most tend to put emphasis on the temporary and discard the eternal.
"women, modesty means you have beauty and power. & you use that to teach men how to love you for the right reasons." - Jason Evert.
Modesty and Purity are a couple of BIG things I hope we can instill in our daughter early on. I believe modesty isn't just about how we dress, but more if a state of mind... How we present ourselves to others. It's the embodiment of the respect we insist on from others. I want Harper to never expect anything less than being treated as a lady with respect!!! I stumbled upon this book... and it is getting added to my must read list!! "Six Ways to keep the Little in your Little Girl"
And I want women to get in there with the men in humility before God, not primping before a mirror or chasing the latest fashions but doing something beautiful for God and becoming beautiful doing it. 1Timothy 2:9-11 (msg)
I hope that we can teach Harper that her existence and happiness shouldn't be centered on a boy or even her friends...but on God and his purpose in her life. I recently read a blog on this subject, but from the perspective of a boy's mother... so very interesting. Often, as a woman, I've thought of us as being the "target" or "the victim". This made me realize it goes both ways... we, as women, often end up with what we allow or portray.
Let’s choose modesty – modesty that allows a woman’s true beauty to shine through. -Lisa Jacobson
It is such a fine balance... I want Harper to carry herself with confidence... but I want it to be rooted, deeply, where it should be... not in material or temporary things, not in how she feels others perceive her, not whether others like her or affirm her... but in her identity in Christ. With God's wisdom and grace, I pray that we can guide her in the right paths... leading her to values of self respect and purity! ♥